This week we tackle your trickiest questions regarding bridal shower etiquette. Below is a complete guide to putting together a classy celebration for the bride-to-be.
Bridal showers are a favorite pre-wedding event for a reason. They give the bride’s nearest and dearest a chance to meet and bond, they often feature fun games and delicious food, and they come with gifts for everyone (favors for the attendees and presents for the person of honor).
Who plans a bridal shower, anyway? And do they pay for it, too? Who gets invited to a bridal shower, and when and how should the invitations be sent out? Are you wondering when the bridal shower should be, or where it should take place? Are there traditions you need to follow? What are the modern rules? No matter what question or questions you have, we’re here to answer all of the basics with a comprehensive run-down of everything you should be aware of before the party takes place.
When should it be?
In today’s world it is very common for a bride to have more than one shower. When this happens, the hosts should consult one another about guest lists to avoid duplications (though bridesmaids are typically invited, though not expected, to attend both). Showers are generally held a couple months to a couple weeks before the wedding.
Who hosts and who pays?
According to tradition, a shower shouldn’t be thrown by the bride’s immediate relatives, such as her mother, future mother-in-law, or sister, since it may leave an impression that they’re asking for gifts. But this is changing and it’s perfectly acceptable for a family member to host a shower these days. Quite often the maid of honor or another good friend hosts, or several people—often bridesmaids—share the responsibility.
When do I send our invitations and who gets invited?
Invitations should go out a month to six weeks in advanced. Since showers are intended for the brides closest friends and family members, every shower guest must already be on the wedding list.
Where should you have it?
Where ever you want. Bridal showers can be held almost anywhere. At someone’s home, a restaurant or another venue.
What traditions are there?
The tradition of the groom showing up with flowers just before his fiancée opens the gifts is definitely back. Guests who haven’t met the lucky guy before often look forward to this part of the shower for that very reason.
How should gifts be handled?
By the time the shower invitations are sent, the bride should have already registered for gifts. While not necessary, providing the couple’s registry information on shower invites is often welcomed by the recipient, who otherwise might not know where to start in terms of purchasing a gift for the party.